Is It Time for America to Change Its Views of Adultery and Marriage?


Lisa Haisha, popular international motivational speaker and spiritual teacher to some of America's biggest Hollywood stars, recently hit a nerve with Huffington Post readers with her article titled "Is It Time To Change Our Views Of Adultery and Marriage?" In this controversial article, Lisa reveals that our idea of an idealized monogamous marriage is a modern concept and, in the past, the majority of societies allowed and even expected plural marriages, with either multiple wives or multiple husbands. As one reader comment states, "Plural marriage is one of the oldest forms of marriage defined in the Bible. Moses had more than one wife, as did David and other figures in the Old Testament." As a world traveler, Lisa notes that even today many cultures such as the Arabic Bedouin men will typically have up to five wives. The big question is, with today's rate of divorce between 40 and 50 percent coupled with the prevalence of adultery in many marriages, is it time for the American concept of marriage to evolve?

As Lisa provocatively asks, "Are we really supposed to be with just one person our whole life? And if not, must we get re-married five times? Are there alternative ways to perceive and participate in a marriage that will guarantee its success?" Lisa continues, "Hundreds of years ago, life expectancy was a fraction of what it is today. When two people in their 20s got married, it was quite possible that one of the two would be deceased within 10 to 15 years. Today, however, that same young couple could be together for 60 or more years! Is it realistic to think that two people could be emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually compatible for that long?" Perhaps adultery is inevitable in most relationships.

Lisa's article came about after several months working with clients with similar relationship problems, and her realization that the cause of most people's problems is not feeling loved, and not being able to communicate one's feelings at a truly personal level. And based on her article's tremendous number of likes, shares, and comments, it's clear that Lisa has awakened an underlying feeling that the way America thinks about relationships is slowly evolving. More importantly, as a women's advocate, Lisa is showing women how to "show up" in their own lives professionally, personally, and passionately with her fearless expression in all media. 

From working with her clients, Lisa's advice is to focus on learning to have heart-centered communication with your partner in order to prevent adultery, miscommunication, and depression. The key is to learn how to first connect with yourself, then with your loved ones and finally with the world as a whole. As Lisa states, "If you can't connect with yourself, it's impossible to connect with others and the world."


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